In this episode, Jonathan reflects on the previous episode's conversation with Rob Bray about changing the family narrative. He discusses the importance of redirecting masculine energy into things that matter and pursuing one's full potential. Jonathan encourages listeners to start dreaming bigger and challenge themselves to not settle for the status quo. He explores the traps of comparison and the fear of failure that often lead to playing small. Jonathan emphasizes the need to compare oneself to one's former self and to view failure as a necessary part of pursuing greatness. He concludes by urging listeners to not settle for mediocrity and to live intentionally.


  • Redirect masculine energy into things that matter and pursue your full potential.
  • Challenge yourself to dream bigger and not settle for the status quo.
  • Avoid the traps of comparison and the fear of failure that lead to playing small.
  • Compare yourself to your former self and view failure as a necessary part of pursuing greatness.
  • Don't settle for mediocrity, but live intentionally.



All right, welcome back to the Intentional Man podcast. I'm excited you're here and thrilled for today's episode. I hope you leave feeling encouraged and inspired to develop a greater dream for your life. In the last episode titled "Changing Your Family Narrative," my guest, Rob Bray, shared the story of growing up with a father who left his family when he was young to pursue money, fame, and material success.

For Rob, being a man meant having the nicest car, the most money, or the trophy wife. However, as he grew older, he realized that basing his identity and validation on these things was a vain pursuit. He spoke about redirecting masculine energy into meaningful endeavors that last—using it to love and lead rather than merely accumulate.

It was one of my favorite episodes so far. It was inspiring to hear how Rob has worked diligently to build a significant life, remaining intentional in his efforts to love and lead consistently. Something Rob said really struck me after the episode. He used to believe that being slightly better than his father was sufficient to be considered a great man. Simply not leaving his family, like his father did, seemed like an accomplishment.

However, Rob came to understand that merely avoiding his father's mistakes wasn't enough. He aspired to build a thriving marriage, a strong family, and a lasting legacy. He didn't want to settle for being slightly better than the example he was given. He aimed to reach his full potential, which he termed his "blue sky potential."

Reflecting on our conversation, I found myself pondering some questions. Where am I settling for the status quo instead of pursuing my full potential? Where am I accepting "good enough" instead of striving for greatness? Where am I playing small in my life?

Instead of coasting and avoiding mistakes, I realized the importance of being proactive and becoming the best version of myself. These are significant questions, and it's easy to settle for mediocrity without even realizing it. That's why today, I want to challenge you to dream bigger, to reconsider areas where you're settling, and to explore new possibilities.

I don't want to be just a decent version of myself; I aspire to be the best. I don't want to have a minimal impact; I want to make a profound difference. I don't want to coast through life; I want to pursue excellence actively. And if you're listening, I believe you share similar desires.

So, I'll pose the same questions to you: Where are you settling for the status quo instead of striving for your best? Where are you playing small? Perhaps it's time to envision your "blue sky potential" and aim higher.

One common reason for settling is comparing ourselves to others. This can manifest in two ways: comparing ourselves to those who set a low bar, or to those we perceive as far ahead. In both cases, comparison leads to passivity, preventing us from reaching our true potential.

Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should compare ourselves to our former selves. This self-reflection can be motivating and encouraging, regardless of where we stand compared to others. It's about personal growth and stewarding our gifts and abilities well.

Another reason we settle is the fear of failure. However, some of our greatest regrets stem not from mistakes made but from opportunities missed due to fear. Failure is often a necessary step toward greatness, and the pain of inaction and regret is more significant than that of making mistakes.

Life's greatest joys and triumphs often lie on the other side of pain and failure. If we're not experiencing some discomfort or failure, we're likely settling for the status quo. Failure should be viewed as a learning experience, pushing us to grow and pursue our dreams more fervently.

So, where are you settling, driven by fear or comparison? Let's refuse to settle for mediocrity and strive for our best. It starts with envisioning a greater life and living with intentionality.

I hope this episode has been encouraging and challenging for you, as it has been for me. Feel free to reach out with your thoughts or questions—I'd love to connect and follow up. Until next time, live a life you're proud of by living intentionally. We'll talk again soon.

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